Goodbye

Yesterday my son's father was laid to rest. At 11, how do you handle this gracefully? Like my son did. He has a wonderful group of friends who have been there for him this week and their parents have been there for me. My husband, well, he just is the bomb. I am not sure how he handles this emotion but he just is a rock for us all.

I am doing OK as his father and I were at a place where we were not angry with each other and just enjoyed this precious child. OK, so he drove me crazy but that is what he was for! There is a lot of truth to finish your fights early if not by the end of the conversation.

I was able to spend time with his two other kids and I am still amazed at the great relationship I have with them. His daughter is 6 years younger than me and his son is 15 years younger than me yet they still wanted me there. They are amazing people who do not realize sometimes how wonderful they are. I was the third wife, the second wife was there so but the end of the evening we were number 2 and number 3 - it was rather funny. My son did not attend the after service - he was there for the visitation and then it started becoming too much for him so he went to hang with his friends. At 11, he showed all the grace and maturity that I could only dream about - I am so proud of him.

I just realized that Father's Day is next week-end so I am thinking that I may need to plan something outrageously fun for him. Friday before the service, I took him, 5 of his friends, his sister and her son to Global Wildlife for private tour to feed the animals and it was what he needed. I just need to remember to let him lead me through his grief. I pray that I am able to handle this right.


Well today is a new day and we will move forward. Thank you family, friends (and my one follower!) who have been such a wonderful support for us.